There was a woman that came to Jesus with great ambitions for her two sons, James and John, the sons of Zebedee. She requested that they might sit, one on the right hand and one on the left hand of Jesus when he came into his kingdom.
I wonder how her sons felt, when she asked Jesus that. Maybe their mother had been doing this all their lives, manipulating to get them promoted in life. Were they Mama’s boys, always letting Mama run their lives? Evidently they didn’t have the guts to ask it themselves, so they let their mother do the asking.
But Jesus said, “You don’t even know what you are asking. It is not up to me, but it is in the Father’s hand.” The other ten disciples all got mad at the two brothers who were plotting to get the best position, but Jesus settled it once and for all when he said, “Whosoever will be chief among you, let him be your servant,” Matt 20:26 KJV.
There is a Christian song that says this is an upside-down kingdom. The way to become great in the kingdom is to become the least. The way up is down, the way to become great is to humble yourself, the way to become the boss is to become a servant.
The way to see your child become all that God intends for her to become is to teach her to serve other people. Please don’t try to manipulate things to see that your child gets the best seat or the preferred place or the special treatment. No one likes a mother who pushes her kids to the front all the time.
Let God do the promoting. It’ll save you a lot of heartache in the long run.